I chose the word growing as my focus for 2019.
Grant this former English and writing teacher/professor a little grace as I throw in a brief grammar lesson. Growing is the present continuous form of the verb grow. “So what?” I hear you asking. Well, this means the action of growing is happening now, and it’s also continuing into the future.
I want growth that produces
momentum for greater growth.
I don’t want to just grow, I want to bloom in every aspect of my life. But even more importantly, I want my growth that produces momentum for greater growth–especially in the most important dimension of my life, my spiritual life. One important goal for growth for me this year is growing in gratitude.
I struggled in this area for many years. It’s not that I didn’t say “thank you,” and feel grateful for the things I had. I took people for granted. I took God’s presence and blessings in my life for granted. These things showed up in a critical spirit and a victim mentality. I was pretty much blind to these things until people who loved me graciously held me accountable. I talk about this journey more fully in my book The Silent Seduction of Self-Talk: Conforming Deadly Though Patterns to the Word of God.
God gives us the ingredients for growing in our spiritual life:
the Word of God,
the Spirit of God,
and the people of God.
Gratitude means more than saying “thank you” or acknowledging that we’re blessed. We convey gratitude in actions we choose and the attitudes we convey to others. We express gratitude in our nonverbal language. We show gratitude through joyous generosity that flows from humble awareness of all God’s given us.
Gratitude is the rain
that nourishes the seed of forgiveness.
Gratitude is the sun that melts the proud heart and graces the humble with quiet power.
But how does growing in gratitude work on a practical level?
I love my husband, and I’m enormously grateful for many things about him. I can tell him I’m grateful for him a dozen times a day. I can write my thoughts in cards. I can display them on the bathroom mirror in red lipstick.
But my words mean nothing if my attitude and actions don’t match. I negate what I say if
- I ignore him because I’m too engrossed in my own priorities.
- I use sarcasm and criticism that disrespect him.
- I do things behind his back that I know he disapproves of.
- I talk disrespectfully about him when I’m with friends.
True gratitude expresses itself in ways
that can be seen and sensed.
- Looking out for the best interests of the other
- Forgiveness and reconciliation
For me, this comes down to paying attention to my self-talk. This is where I discover my true motives and priorities. As I examine my self-talk, I discover that my self-interests often crowd out gratitude and love for others. You can find more information about self-talk in my book The Silent Seduction of Self-Talk: Conforming Deadly Thought Patterns to the Word of God.
Gratitude grows as I grasp God’s love for me and compels my heart to conform to His.
Ask God to magnify your appreciation for all He’s done for you. Ponder the blessings of your life–large and small. Then ask Him to increase your heart of sacrifice, humility, service, respect, forgiveness, and reconciliation.
Gratitude is a lifestyle and a mindset.
“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
‘The Lord is my portion,’ says my soul,
‘therefore I will hope in him.’”
What about you? How do you show gratitude in your life? How do you want to grow spiritually this year?
4 thoughts on “Growing in Gratitude”
Like the practical aspects of gratitude that you list. It takes developing an attitude of gratitude one step further! It isn’t enough to feel gratitude, your actions need to follow. Thank you.
Thank you for your feedback, Patricia. I can tell someone Im grateful for them, and they can still feel unappreciated and disrespected because words are only part of the story. My actions tell the deeper story. What am I willing to sacrifice for you? What am I willing to lay down for you? I believe that characteristics like love and gratitude and mercy must be lived more than spoken.
I havent read this post yet Shelly but i am presently reading your book It Is Well With My Soul and i wanted to thank you for sharing so many wonderful insights. I am a caregiver for my husband, as many people might describe. However i feel a more accurate description is that God has called us to a ministry life that is characterized by limits caused by chronic illness. Your words and the testimonies of others in your book, have encouraged me and i wantes to thank you!
Thank you so much for your comments, Laurie. Yes, God has called us to a ministry life. I’m so glad God is using the book to encourage you! Your words encourage me. Prayers for you as you care for your husband.